If you really want to do something bad to yourself, "continue to complain"!
If you really want to do the worst, " listen to the other's complaints"!
You suppose that you are a good friend,good family member,good worker,..etc., when you listen somebody's complaints and support them for their opinions.
:))
Maybe you are the best for them, but actually the worst for yourself. It is the ugly truth!
Complaining is a mask that tells us "you don't have enough power to change the situation as you wish and you feel freak out about your impotence." We choose to hide our feelings like "inadequacy" by talking too much about the undesirable situations.We talk and show our reaction to other people ,by this way we hide our "real" emotion (it is mostly "fear" of something).
After seeing all complains are hiding a secret emotion behind them, I started to control myself and stopped to listen to other's complaints.
My complaint reminds me there is a negative emotion still waiting for letting go and I thank to my feeling to show itself by this way. On the other hand, other people's problems/complaints are not my business unless they ask for help .
So;
It seems a little bit selfishly but this "STOP" motion aims to protect yourself from negative energy and helps for starting a new conversation with the sentence of " how can I help you :)?"
If you can do anything, do your best for him/her sake,
but if you can't, let her/him free..
You don't have to carry other's luggage with you,
IT'S YOUR LIFE!
Starting point is you..
Find your "real" emotions hides behind that complaint and let it go with unconditional love and confidence .
Do not allow yourself fedding by negative situations , it only supports thoughts as you are a victim .
Remind yourself feeling like a victim is the wrongest way to reach happiness .
at the weekend I had a 11 hours bus trip and had to hear lots of complaints about the driver,the bus,the tea,the road,the seat ,the passengers,the baby......lots of.. I wore my headphone and listen to the music instead of join them ..
As the serenity prayer's said;
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.
LOVE YOU ALL!
