..JUST THE WAY YOU ARE ;)

Accept people for who  they are.

We should not try or hope to change their personalities, attitudes, opinions.. etc.. 

Every person comes into your life for a reason. 

Think of it.  

People are like mirrors for each other and have duties which should be experienced by us . When we find it , we  feel better and thank to him/her for acting a role  in our play. Also we are the players of their life scene  for getting the lesson to reach the highest good  by this way. If you push them to change their personalities , you interfere their mission and make their shortest way longer to reach their goal.

Did you aware of the mutual loss?

All you can do is changing your attitude if  you  are not satisfied with the conditions.

Accept people as they are and change your reaction with absolute love ;) Due to your change, the conditions will also change. As conditions change, people's attitudes will change ,either.

As Mahatma Gandhi says;

"Be the change that you wish to see in the world."

We hope to change people's mind and would like to be satistied with  the behaviours as we wish to see. If this condition does not occurs then we feel upset / angry/ sad ... etc. 

When your happines depends on someone or some conditions, you loss in the end.

As I always say , break your chains and let you free from desires . Forgive people who refuse your personality and force you to change   and  avoid doing the same mistake to the others.

                                                                  LOVE YOU ALL!



                        P.S. : HAVE FUN;) !

WHAT IS YOUR CHOICE?

JEALOUSY

We have a watsapp group with my closest friends for sharing daily news for ourselves. Yesterday one them shared her instant emotion by messaging and tried to find what was the matter with her. My friend is beautiful, 30 years old lawyer and single by the way .After meeting with a pregnant friend on the street, she confused because of being happy for her friend's happiness and melancholic for herself at the same time and couldn't understand why this kind of complication occured.

 :) just kidding!

As you know, the best part is being aware of negative emotions. Confessing your real thoughts/ feelings is a big step and helps you for  having fast develop to solve the problem out.

We all shared our opinions at the group and mostly she read "Don't be panic, it is so undestandable. You want to be a mother , too. Just focus on happiness that you felt for her, it helps to increase your positive energy! " 

There would be so many reasons which make you confused like this. We all want somenthing that we don't own and sometimes we really may not have a chance to own it ,either. At this point ,I have to say that "please don't get your positive energy, your happiness , your self-confidence down by comparing your life  with  the other 's ."It 's not just  wasting your time but also harmful for you.

The only thing that you should focus on is you and your life.

Always start with remembering things that you are satisifed.

What do you have? (basically I thank for breathe- in and breathe- out in a good health conditons everyday , I know there are so many people can not do this basic need easily)

Be thankful.

If you have wishes , make  plans towards  this aim .

If you have plans, take a step for it and do your best consistently.

There is two result ;

1- You win and get what you wish for. CONGRATS :) If you are ready and your wish is proper for your highest favor , of course the  result will be success , no doubt!

2- Still waiting for the result that you wish for. I think the best thing we can do is LETting GO and LETting GOD!

(You may say Let Universe,Let Buddha,Let if flow.. It doesn't matter, but don't insist on the subject and don't feed negative emotions like "jealousy" )

Everything happens for a good reason for us,

It may not be seen obviously at the beginning but after a while we  have a chance to see the whole puzzle and  thank for it . We are student at our lives to find our lessons and pass the exams. Being patient and being thankful are like keys, save your keys in your lifetime!

On the other hand, being happy with someone's jealousy on you may be support your arrogance.It is also not an usefull energy for you . Proud of yourself ,love people unconditionaly and let them free by thinking of their highest good.

What you sow is what you reap!

When we learn being happy is not just related with having good relations, million dollars, long legs without cellulite, open-top car... When we learn being happy starts with "us" and continues until "we" die without any variables.. We  will have to say goodbye to some closest feelings , not closest friends ;)

LOVE YOU ALL!

STOP COMPLAINING!

If you really  want to do something  bad to yourself, "continue to complain"!

If you really want to do the worst, " listen to the other's complaints"!

You  suppose that you are a good friend,good family member,good worker,..etc., when you listen somebody's complaints and support them for their opinions.

:))

Maybe you are the best for them, but actually the worst for yourself. It is the ugly truth!

Complaining is a mask that tells us "you don't have enough power to change the situation as you wish and you feel freak out about your impotence."  We choose to hide our feelings like "inadequacy" by talking too much about the undesirable situations.We talk and show our reaction to other people ,by this way we hide our "real" emotion (it is mostly  "fear" of something).

After seeing all complains are hiding a secret emotion behind them, I started to control myself and stopped to listen to other's complaints.

My complaint reminds me there is a  negative emotion still waiting for letting go and I thank to my feeling  to show itself by this way. On the other hand, other people's problems/complaints are not my business unless they ask for help .

So;

It seems a little bit selfishly but this "STOP" motion aims to protect yourself  from negative energy and helps for starting a new conversation with the sentence of " how can I help you :)?"

If you can do anything, do your best for him/her sake, 

but if you can't, let her/him free..

You don't have to carry other's luggage with you,

IT'S YOUR LIFE!

Starting point is you..

Find your "real" emotions hides behind that complaint and let it go with unconditional love and confidence .

  Just take a step and do your best for your problem.

 Do not allow yourself fedding by negative situations , it only supports thoughts as you are a victim .

  Remind yourself feeling like a victim is the wrongest way to reach happiness .

at the weekend I had a 11 hours bus trip and had to hear lots of complaints about the driver,the bus,the tea,the road,the seat ,the passengers,the baby......lots of.. I wore my headphone and listen to the music instead of join them ..


As the serenity prayer's said;

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.



LOVE YOU ALL!

Greetings from the author :)

Hi Everyone!

I briefly  tried to describe myself as you can  read on the right side of the page with the title of 

"Who is Cocogino?".. 

Does it really matter who I am ? I guess NO, the ideas are over people. 

BUT;

If I may ,I just want to add one thing about me.

I graduated as a civil engineer but  infact the most important lesson I've learned from my undergraduate education is;

 "understand  problem clearly, ask  true questions to see the hint, solution is the easiest part "!

This "one sentence " helped me so much, I wish you find the key which will open the doors for you..

Bye for now..

LOVE YOU ALL!